i miss her already..

Author

Tulio Sasaya
June 22, 2025

have you ever had a summer fling?

because i did not expect to get this emotionally invested..

so two weeks ago, i was with my family celebrating my grandpa’s birthday. we were staying at this resort, and everything was going smoothly.

almost too smoothly.

we arrived late at night and were settling into our rooms when i noticed my water bottle was running low. i decided to refill it outside so i opened the door, and i kid you not, right outside my door was this girl, just sitting there.

let’s call her rose.

she didn’t really talk to me, just kinda followed me around, which i thought was weird.

the next day, i saw her again, but this time by the pool.

i noticed she was alone, so i sat next to her to keep her company.

and by the third day, i think she recognized me!

rose even let me pet her.

anyways, i never saw her again after that, and we left the resort the following day.

pictures of me and rose :)

takeaways:

  • cats are cool

  • i think i like cats

  • maybe i should get a cat

from the garden 🌷

here’s what a few of you said a piece of advice you received that’s stayed with you?

not everyone is going to want to be your friend - it really taught me that i can’t people please everyone and at the end of the day the only person i truly will always be able to count on is myself, so i have to love and cherish myself first in order to create meaningful relationships- elise

your life is a book, a blank book. you can write whatever you want in it. if you would read your book again, would it be a book youll like? remember that you decide what you write, you decide how your life goes. (i cant explain well😭) - lilo

“the world is how you make it to seem” i usually tend to remember this when i’m beaten down by responsibilities - ashyyy :D

“don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.” for the longest time, i felt that i was living my life not for the sake of my own happiness and self improvement, but rather to meet other people’s expectations. it seems a little weird to say this, but i wish i hadn’t worked as hard as i did. i sacrificed friendships, hobbies, and sleep to be able to get in a good college. and while i’m grateful that i’m here now, it does make me sad looking back because how many of the things i did were really because i cared about them? i’m still trying to find that answer now. - kevin

don't change who you are to be accepted -my mom's advice- and it helped me lots!! - emilly

“try turning it off and back on again” also applies to taking breaks and getting enough sleep. sometimes the most productive thing you can do is step away for a bit - eliza

if you ever feel frustrated or angry or just plain upset and you are not sure why, talk to yourself in the mirror. it helps a lot to process things out loud and might make more sense out of whatever is bothering you - sol

take care of your heart, and your path will take care of itself. it reminded me to stay true to who i am, to be kind, and to make choices that feel right deep down, even when life gets complicated. - anisa

thank you all for sharing the wisdom of others that have helped you. all of these words i’ve personally found very insightful.

while on this trip in brazil, i’ve found myself noticing the little things i didn’t realize i’d been taking for granted. waking up to the sound of my family talking. the small gestures my grandma makes to make me feel at home. the way people linger after meals instead of rushing off.

so for next week’s question:

“what’s something you take for granted, but deep down, you’re grateful for?”

if you want your response featured on this newsletter’s next issue fill out this form!

community spotlight 💬

“how to deal with feeling lost and the feeling that everyone my age is ahead of me” - arina

every single person’s path in life is different.

you are the culmination of all of the situations, relationships, and experiences from the moment you are born, which means your journey will never look exactly like anyone else’s.

honestly, that is something that i’m still having to remind myself of as i navigate my 20s.

i’ve met people who are younger than i who already seem to have it all figured out. we’re talking millionaires, public figures, people who’ve achieved things i never imagined possible. and for a while, that really shook my worldview.

a reframe that’s helped me and that i’ve already mentioned before is:

also, it’s easy to forget that most of what we see from others, especially on social media, is just a highlight reel. we end up comparing the best of someone else’s story to the messiest parts of our own, and that is not a fair comparison.

feeling lost is also completely normal. you’d be surprised at how many people feel the same.

even when things are going well, life has a way of throwing curveballs that make us question everything all over again.

so if you’re feeling behind, just know:

you’re not.

you’re right on time for your life.

you don’t need to have everything figured out right now.

you are exactly where you need to be.

and if you want proof that other people feel lost too, here is a video i made over an year ago ranting about my own struggles with this:

p.s. if you want your question featured in next week’s newsletter, fill out this form!!

YOOOOOO

i am so so grateful to you all for reading this far. thank you again for giving me this platform to let me yap my mind out and learn from you.

wishing you all the best,

tulio sasaya